Divorce: why not the nest model?

A divorce should be as pleasant as possible, especially for the children. The so-called nest model is designed to achieve just that. The children stay in the shared property and the parents live there on a weekly basis. This also means that each ex-partner also needs their own apartment for the time when they are not living in the old property.

Although the bird nesting model is far less common than the classic residential or alternating model, it has become increasingly attractive in recent years for child contact after a separation. Whether this model is an option for separated couples depends on their individual and financial situation. It is therefore advisable for couples who are separating or divorcing to seek advice from a broker.

What does the nest model mean for children and parents?

In this model, the children remain in their familiar environment despite the end of their parents' relationship. This reduces the negative consequences of divorce for the children and makes it easier to overcome the break-up of the family. "Nest" children should also develop better in terms of their personality than other separated children. Qualities such as respect, resilience and tolerance are encouraged.

Parents can lead a life without their children in their own four walls when it is the other parent's turn to look after the children's "nest".

Good for the children, but not always for the ex-partners

Bird nesting means ending the relationship without drawing a line in the sand. Parents who opt for this model are therefore de facto separated, but still have to make decisions together that still affect the joint property. After all, both parents live partly in the children's "nest".

This leads to disputes and disagreements, especially when it comes to financial issues. Who pays the electricity bill? Who should pay the GEZ fees? Who pays for repairs and new furnishings? If a property loan or credit also has to be paid off, the question arises as to who will contribute how much to the repayment.

In addition, each parent has to look for a new home. And there is also the financial burden of running two households and the costs for both properties. In times of rising rents and property prices, as well as the cost of living, this can often put a strain on your bank account. Especially if you are not a low-income earner. And, of course, you shouldn't forget to take care of your children.

Selling or a new apartment? - Advice from a professional

In cases where the property is difficult or impossible to keep, the nesting model is generally better for the children, but is virtually impossible to implement. It is therefore better to look for solutions for the best individual way of dealing with the separation property together with an estate agent. Of course, the main aim is always to resolve the situation as well as possible for the children.

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